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Who I’m Meant To Be ~ My Scores

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Who Am I Meant to Be?
By Anne Dranitsaris, PhD

From the October 2009 issue of O, The Oprah Magazine

Forget your career. Forget your role as a mother or a wife. Forget how much money you make or how successful you are. If you’re struggling with the question “Who am I meant to be?”, this quiz can help you figure out what really defines you. Based on personality science, I have identified seven “striving styles,” modes of thought and behavior that direct us to seek satisfaction in different ways. Although everybody is wired with all seven styles, most people have one that dominates. When you engage this innate style, you’ve got the best shot at fulfilling your potential; when you don’t, you can feel stuck.

After responding to the statements below, you will discover your striving style, learn what to do if it’s backfiring from neglect, and find ideas to guide your life in the direction that it was meant to go.

YOU ARE STRIVING TO BE CREATIVE
You are an artist: You came out of the womb with a paintbrush in your hand. Or maybe it was a flute or a castanet or a fountain pen to go with your poet’s imagination. The point is, you’re an original, and you know it. Even if you don’t have a singular gift, you’re drawn to the arts—anything creative, for that matter—and you have a unique way of looking at the world. Your need for depth and authenticity in relationships can lead to both great joy and profound sorrow, depending on whether others reciprocate. You don’t care so much about adapting to group or societal expectations; your independence and sharp intuition propel you on your own path.

What to watch out for: When fear of conformity overrides your creativity, you can assume the role of “outsider” or “orphan” and end up feeling alienated. You may even go so far as refusing to vote or pay taxes. This lone-wolf stance might be a defense against feeling vulnerable. Try to be aware that blaming others for your banishment, or pushing away those who want to get close, only makes things worse. Also, dramatizing your emotions can interfere with your creativity.

Looking ahead: As long as you genuinely express yourself, you feel like the person you were meant to be. How you do it is irrelevant. A chef or architect can be as much of an artist as a painter or sculptor. Many advertising and public relations executives are also highly imaginative. Beyond work, there are opportunities everywhere you look to coax out your inner artist: Design your own jewelry line, create an innovative blog, dream up a comic strip. Relationships are another avenue for self-expression.

Find careers that match your striving style.

YOUR SCORES
Many people have two or three strong striving styles, and they can all be important in leading you to the person you are meant to be. If you have a few “highest” scores, read each matching description, and see what rings most true.

Striving to help: 14
Striving to be recognized: 13
Striving to be creative: 18
Striving to be spontaneous: 13
Striving to be knowledgeable: 16
Striving to be secure: 14
Striving to be in control: 13

STRIVING TO HELP
You scored: 14
You are a nurturer: You are caring and supportive in your personal relationships as well as in your job. Unselfish and altruistic by nature, you often anticipate the needs of those around you before they are aware of them. If there is one thing that brings you satisfaction, it’s tending to others.

What to watch out for: When you’re doing things for people only to feel valued, you can become resentful. And if you sense that your help is not appreciated, you may end up playing the martyr. So before giving your time to everyone else, make sure to take care of yourself (physically, emotionally, and spiritually). And practice waiting until someone asks for help: While you may be able to perceive what a person needs, that doesn’t mean she wants you to attend to it.

Looking ahead: It’s important for you to be genuinely of service in acknowledged ways. Whether you foster a child, care for an elderly aunt, rescue animals, or support a rock star’s career as her personal assistant, look for opportunities where you can help other people or bigger causes. Volunteer work has your name written on it, as do many careers: nursing, teaching, customer service, healing, social work. Don’t feel pressured to run the company or lead the project; you may be even more effective as someone’s right hand. And you’ll likely find working with other people more meaningful than flying solo.

STRIVING TO BE RECOGNIZED
You scored: 13
You are an achiever: Ambitious, competitive, and hardworking: That’s you. With a clear image of who you are, you work tirelessly to make sure your accomplishments are recognized. Your drive for success extends to your family, and you invest a lot of energy in helping them live up to your expectations. Thanks to your knack for diplomacy and abundant charisma, you often inspire others.

What to watch out for: You are prone to becoming a workaholic, slaving away toward success while neglecting your personal life. Because you’re driven to gain approval, you can find yourself performing for others like an actor; if you become overly concerned with your image, you end up feeling superficial. To keep your ambition under control, get involved in group activities that require cooperation. Also practice listening to those around you and think about sharing the spotlight from time to time.

Looking ahead: Any career that allows you to scale the ranks and gain recognition, status, even material rewards, lights you up. Actress, entrepreneur, salesperson, politician—you get the picture. And consider balancing your professional challenges with personal ones: Run a 10K, train for a triathlon, compete in a tennis tournament, bike from one end of your state to the other; or join a debate team, play in a poker circle, enter your purebred spaniel in a dog show. Whenever you can win at something, you’re happy.

 

STRIVING TO BE CREATIVE
You scored: 18
You are an artist: You came out of the womb with a paintbrush in your hand. Or maybe it was a flute or a castanet or a fountain pen to go with your poet’s imagination. The point is, you’re an original, and you know it. Even if you don’t have a singular gift, you’re drawn to the arts—anything creative, for that matter—and you have a unique way of looking at the world. Your need for depth and authenticity in relationships can lead to both great joy and profound sorrow, depending on whether others reciprocate. You don’t care so much about adapting to group or societal expectations; your independence and sharp intuition propel you on your own path.

What to watch out for: When fear of conformity overrides your creativity, you can assume the role of “outsider” or “orphan” and end up feeling alienated. You may even go so far as refusing to vote or pay taxes. This lone-wolf stance might be a defense against feeling vulnerable. Try to be aware that blaming others for your banishment, or pushing away those who want to get close, only makes things worse. Also, dramatizing your emotions can interfere with your creativity.

Looking ahead: As long as you genuinely express yourself, you feel like the person you were meant to be. How you do it is irrelevant. A chef or architect can be as much of an artist as a painter or sculptor. Many advertising and public relations executives are also highly imaginative. Beyond work, there are opportunities everywhere you look to coax out your inner artist: Design your own jewelry line, create an innovative blog, dream up a comic strip. Relationships are another avenue for self-expression.

 

STRIVING TO BE SPONTANEOUS
You scored: 13
You are an adventurer: Action-oriented, curious, outgoing, and often technically gifted, you live for new experiences. You are drawn to risk-taking and aren’t afraid to fail. Generally restless, you tend to job-hop or choose a field that offers constant novelty. If you had to name your favorite place, it might be the center of attention—you’re a born entertainer, and can easily adapt to any audience. While you collect many acquaintances, you’re less likely to develop deep, committed relationships.

What to watch out for: When you can’t satisfy your thirst for variety and excitement, you may see yourself as trapped, which can lead to impulsive and self-destructive behavior—drinking, drugs, breaking off relationships, ditching financial responsibilities. Try to find value in some traditions; if you learn to appreciate repetitive experiences, you won’t always feel the urge to bust free. And when a new opportunity thrills you, keep in mind that just because it sounds exciting, that doesn’t mean it’s good for you.

Looking ahead: Life will have meaning for you as long as you feel stimulated. That might mean chasing twisters, exploring the polar ice caps, getting a degree in dance therapy, or becoming an astronaut. It might also mean reading new books, attending workshops, or letting yourself get swept up in an intoxicating romance. As a risk-lover with a lot of energy, you’re a natural entrepreneur. You’ll be happiest if you change jobs every so often and travel extensively. Movement is what keeps you going.

STRIVING TO BE KNOWLEDGEABLE
You scored: 16
You are an intellectual: As a leader, you’re often ahead of your time. As an employee, you try to surpass the competence level of peers, even managers. Incisive and curious, you’re driven to deeply understand how things work. But that’s things, not people. Oh, your family and friends are important; it’s just that you don’t need to spend hours engaging with them. Social validation isn’t your goal—you’re secure enough in your cerebral pursuits.

What to watch out for: When you can’t find a way to be the expert, you may withdraw or simply withhold information, which can make you seem smug or arrogant. If you feel yourself retreating into your own world, seek a friend’s help to pull you back. Also balance your cerebral tendencies through physical activities like jogging, hiking, or dance.

Looking ahead: You discover who you are meant to be through accumulating insight and knowledge. So follow your curiosity. Are you drawn to learning Mandarin? Join-ing a philosophy society? Studying and practicing Buddhist meditation? Delving into the complexities of computer programming? Writing a historical book? Pursuits that place you near the leading edge of technology, science, psychology, academia, or business are good bets. But any situation that allows you to work independently with freedom to investigate and innovate will fuel your drive.

STRIVING TO BE SECURE
You scored: 14
You are a stabilizer: You are the rock in a storm, the one others lean on. Loyal and com-mitted in your relationships, you maintain a support system of like-minded people whom you look out for. (So what if you do it behind the scenes and don’t get credit?) You’re careful with money, cherish the familiar, and defend the traditions you care about.

What to watch out for: Rapidly changing environments (like a shaky economy) are very hard for you. As a result of such instability, you can spiral into a state where everything seems catastrophic and you’re sure life will only get worse. You can also become overcontrolling, rejecting any suggestion that doesn’t conform to your idea of the way things should be. To avoid being too rigid, each month try changing one habit. Exper-iment with clothes, drive a different way to work, initiate conversations about subjects you wouldn’t normally discuss. And when the opportunity arises to do something new, avoid the impulse to immediately say no—this may be nerve-racking, but the more you practice, the less anxious you’ll feel.

Looking ahead: You find meaning in pursuing safety and certainty. Focusing on family can give you great satisfaction. Also consider planting a vegetable garden, hosting class reunions, volunteering as a lifeguard, teaching at your church or temple. In the work arena, look for positions where you’re responsible for others, and for making sure everyone is following the rules. You work well in any environment that is stable and consistent. Careers in government, finance, the military, law enforcement, and product manufacturing are strong options for you.

STRIVING TO BE IN CONTROL
You scored: 13
You are a leader: You approach everything as though you were born to be in charge. Confident, assertive, and decisive, you know what you want and you go after it. You also look out for family, friends, and community—you feel you know what’s best for them—and have no fear of confronting anyone who challenges your ideas. Taking the driver’s seat, you also generously donate time and energy to people and neighborhood projects.

What to watch out for: When you feel threatened, or others refuse to go along with your agenda, you can become confrontational and domineering, sometimes to the point of being dictatorial. Practice letting someone else take charge on occasion. Also try meditation; it can help you be-come more aware of your controlling impulses and ease the anxiety that may be provoking them.

Looking ahead: You discover your purpose when you take control of your environment. For you, finding a decision-making role is key. That could mean anything from producing a play to spearheading a global campaign for something you care about. In work, you’re suited for leadership positions in education, government, industry, finance, religious institutions, or politics. But you can find satisfaction anytime you’re given the autonomy to do things your own way.

After taking the quiz to discover who you’re meant to be, find your striving style below and find the right career for you.

1. Striving to help: A need to take care of other people is important to this type, who thrives in professions like:
Career counselor
Psychologist
Massage therapist
Development, or Training Consultant
Paralegal
Wedding Planner
Paramedic

2. Striving to be recognized: An audience and a chance to show off their charm suit this type, which works best in roles such as:
Teacher
Newscaster
Real Estate Agent
Publicist
Talent Agent
Investment Banker
Journalist/Reporter/Reporter
Literary Agent

3. Striving to be creative: Imagination and personal expression are important to this type, so they enjoy jobs as:
Graphic Designers
Art Directors
Yoga Instructors Drug Addiction Counselors
Architects
Actors/Musicians/Dancers/Athletes
College Professors
Yoga or Meditation Teachers

4. Striving to be spontaneous: These action and adventure lovers are drawn to careers that promise excitement, whether as a:
Coach
Police Officer
Events Promoter
Family Lawyer
Nutritionist
Investigator
Broker
Travel Agent or Tour Operator

5. Striving to be knowledgeable: Deep thinking and an inventive spirit help this type excel in fields like:
Biomedical Research
Computer Programming
Law
Education
Engineering
Management
Environmental Planning
Telecomunications

6. Striving to be secure: Stable, accurate, and with an unbending attention to detail, this type does well in jobs that have consistency, such as:
Paralegals
Accountants
Electrical engineers
Dentists
School administrators
Public servants
Computer programmers

7. Striving to be in control: Decisiveness and authority come easily to this type, so they work best in leadership roles:
Restaurant manager
Healthcare administrator
Sales director
Teacher
Political consultant
Marketing manager
Advertising executive
Politician

Jumpin’ Jack Flash – Mister D (circa late 80’s?)

Mister D: I sing the old Rolling Stone, “Jumpin’ Jack Flash” classic at a Cayman Island Record Convention. I was better than the band! LOL

I was literally bullied by my my drunken bosses about being gay and then they told me I still had to perform. I was crying up on stage with my back turned to the audience, but when the music started I had to put on my game face. Afterwards I just told them off….assholes from Sound Shop! I was a fetus here and had never sung with a band,,,

The Death Of Coco

Well, it’s been a long time between posts, but I went into a deep depression after losing one of my 3 cats, Coco, to cancer not long ago. For the last 3 months I have been taking care of her, giving her pain medicine, making sure she ate as much as possible, and getting some type of exercise. It was such a long, drawn out experience and so hard to watch her disintegrate before my eyes until she was just a walking skeleton with tumors of varying sizes covering her body. I must say she was a trooper and held on till the last minute – eating, drinking, and going to the bathroom on her own. But one could tell the pain was over powering her and that she was basically hanging on mainly for her owners’ sake. That has been known to happen,

I called the doctor and explained the situation and was told to bring her in for observation, but I knew it was time. My partner and I wrapped her up in a blanket and took her to the vet’s office. My hunch turned out to be right…it was time. Now, I have lost many cats before, but had yet watched one put to sleep before, so this was a first for me. My last cat Chaka had to be put to sleep after 19 years, but it was a surprise to me, and I couldn’t bear to be there with her. I had always regretted that decision, so I promised myself that I would be there for my future pets.

The vet explained everything to us and what to expect, then gave us a minute to be with Coco. She was very calm laying on her blanket. I couldn’t stop telling her how much I loved her while trying not to cry. The doctor came in and gave her a tranquilizer first and she went under very fast. My partner and I took turns holding her and telling her how beautiful she was and how much she was loved again. There was much crying by me. Then the doctor came in to administer the lethal dose of anesthesia and I just couldn’t stand to be in there any longer, so I kissed Coco a tearful goodbye and walked out the door. I waited for my partner outside while I bawled my eyes out….out of sadness, relief, and guilt that I couldn’t stay till the very end. But I knew she was in a better place. She had been hurting and struggling so bad.

My partner walked out and assured me it was all peaceful and I felt better. We both cried and talked about her for awhile. She was very loved and will always be with us….in her two sister cats remaining, the photos we have, and the beautiful memories she left behind….I love you Coco…you will be missed.

Love, Don

Notes On My Fabulis Trip To LA (Partial Day) – Fly Til You Puke!

Notes:

* Thank God for the iPhone on a long trip flying Southwest sitting next to a girl with stinky feet. Had a window seat.  Girl sitting next to me sat in the Lotus position (yes, she was that tiny) with her shoes off….pew!!!), but I was able to listen to music off my iPhone and take myself into another world by listening to Bette Midler music and of course other people’s music…however I do think her feet were the catalyst for the migraine to come later.

* Checked into the Standard Hollywood that Fabulis booked for me for the Burlesque premiere.  I was a day early and was staying a few days later since my mom was in town visiting the head of Screen Gems, Clint Culpepper, and his family.  He runs Screen Gems and is responsible for greenlighting Burlesque.  So, I’m lucky….what can I say.  I will be going to the premiere with his mother, my mother, his brother, Tandy, and my date…which is my cousin John Wright (a make-up artist to the stars)….so it’s a family affair.  Poor Barry couldn’t make it.  Anyway, I had to dick around at the desk to make changes to the room arrangements.  But the hotel and Fabulis were excellent about it.

* As soon as I walked into the room I was out of breathe (sp?) since I have blown up to pumpkin size since my last depression. (Note to self….next time you have a depression and lay in bed for 4 weeks don’t eat out of cartons and boxes!) Also, my phone rang and it was the producer from the Graham Norton show.  By then my head was splitting and he wanted to chat long.  I had to squeeze my head hard to understand what he was saying…you know those English accents and us dumb country folk.  I guessed at what he was asking half of the time.

He wanted to know a lot about the fans and how to contact them.  I couldn’t think at the time, but as the night and next day came around I was able to supply him with information on some Betteheads.  (Hope ya’ll don’t get mad at me!!!!….there’s a reason why some of you got tickets!)

After awhile he asked me to send him some Bette items pronto, so I had to contact Mister Man at home and have him do it.  He actually was thrilled.  So that got done.  Afterwards, I talked to my brother who slayed over 3000 people 2 nights in a row at the Hard Rock casino in Biloxi, then my mother to check in on the itinerary for Burlesque.  By then I was in full Migraine Mode and had to lay down.

Woke up at 1:45 in the morning and threw up my head hurt so bad.  The toilet overflowed when I flushed it the second time….ewww!  Be glad it wasn’t the first time people!!!! Had to call engineering and housekeeping to clean it up.  Still dealing with the headache, but my mother is coming over in a minute with some heavy duty shit that will make me feel good.  Then I need to get dressed for the premiere.  Wish me luck.  Hopefully, I’ll have something good to write about tomorrow….well, the next day!!!!  LOL

Love, Mister D

“Country Strong” Premiere To Be Held in Nashville Monday November 8th; Yep, I’m Invited!

Mister D: My brother, Barry, and I have been invited to this premiere and the after party which happens Monday night. Please wish us luck, since this will be our first. We are notoriously bad about taking photos…usually because we never remember cameras, but hopefully we’ll remember our cell phones have cameras built into them. This was sort of a last minute thing for us, so don’t judge us by the clothes we may wear…I mean, we will wear clothes…I just don’t know what!

The Nashville premiere for Tim McGraw and Gwyneth Paltrow‘s new movie Country Strong promises to be a star-studded affair. Both actors will be on hand to walk the red carpet at the Regal Green Hills Cinema in Music City this Monday, November 8th, along with co-star Leighton Meester and producer Tobey Maguire.

Artists on the movie soundtrack, including Sara Evans, Ronnie Dunn and Trace Adkins are expected to be there too along with Martina McBride, Blake Shelton, Kix Brooks, Jerrod Niemann, Luke Bryan, The Band Perry and more.

Country Strong opens nationwide on Friday, January 7th, 2011. Gwyneth will perform the title song at the CMA Awards Wednesday night, November 10th, at 8:00 ET on ABC.

‘Country Strong’ Movie Preview — World Premiere
Posted Sep 9th 2010 7:30PM by The Boot Staff
Scott Garfield for Sony Pictures

She’s a country singer fresh out of rehab with a star that’s fading fast. He’s her husband and manager, trying to mastermind her career resurrection. Gwyneth Paltrow and Tim McGraw star in the big-screen drama, ‘Country Strong,’ set to hit theaters this winter. The Boot brings you this exclusive world premiere of the movie trailer.

Filmed in Nashville and the surrounding area, ‘Country Strong’ also stars Garrett Hedlund as a rising singer-songwriter who becomes romantically involved with Gwyneth’s character, Kelly Canter. Leighton Meester plays a beauty queen turned country singer who scores an opening act on Kelly’s comeback tour.

Gwyneth herself sings the title track to the movie’s soundtrack, with help from background vocals by Vince Gill and Patty Griffin. The song was released to country radio back in July.

There’s no word yet on if Tim will have a tune or two on the soundtrack, but the chances are highly likely, even though he does not play a singer in the film. The country superstar’s character in ‘Country Strong’ is quite different from his last big screen role — as a doting, joke-cracking dad in the blockbuster movie, ‘The Blind Side.’ But this new, more dramatic character is something Tim wanted to add to his acting resume.

“If I’m doing a movie, I’d rather do the darkest, most human emotional kind of thing that I can do,” Tim told The Boot earlier this year. “I don’t necessarily want to be the bad guy. I just like the rawness of human emotion on any end of the spectrum. I’m not really crazy about the lukewarmness of things.”

‘Country Strong’ hits theaters in limited release on December 22, 2010, and nationwide on January 7, 2011.

The Trailer:

The Music Video:

Mister D’s Playlist for November is up

Elton John in the 1980s
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Mister D’s Playlist for November is up…new music from Elton John and Leon Russell,  Joe Cocker,  Neil Diamond, Bryan Ferry, Pink, Robbie Williams, Duffy, and other surprises.

Plus a “Rampus 18 Song Dance Mix” ( in no particular order – Katy Perry “Teenage Dream” (Manhattan Clique Club Mix), Shontelle “Impossible” (Johnny Vicious House Mix), Bruno Mars “Just The Way” (Nu Addiction Mix), Estelle – Fall In Love (Seamus Haji Remix), Miss Jane – Its A Fine Day 2010, Rihanna – Only Girl (In The World) (Mixin Marc & Tony Svejda Remix), Marina & The DiamondsI Am Not a Robot” Flex’d Rework [Passion Pit Remix], The Divine Brown “Sunglasses” (CajmereRayVocal), Kylie “Get Outta My Way” (Bunch Of Shit Mix), Gaga “Monster” (BuZZ-Boi’s Ranny & Bryan Reyes Edit), Kaci Battaglia w. Ludacris “Body Shots” (Dave Aude Club Mix), B.O.B Feat. Bruno Mars “Nothin’ On You” (Temabes Remix), HURTS “Wonderful Life” (Freemasons Radio Edit), Kelis “4th Of July” (WAWA Remix), Nick Galea “I Believe” feat. Amba Shepherd (Nick Galea Vocal Mix), Jojo “Too Little Too Late” (Raul Rincon Vocal Mix), Sylvester “U Make Me Feel” [Mighty Real] (Bryan Reyes 2010 Revival Remix), Britney “Piece of Me” (Kevin St. Croix Mix Edit) )

Hope you enjoy!

For the playlist: Click Here

Love, Mister D